I have always been under the impression that trust and respect are the two pillars of love. If you understand the two pillars you sustain in any relationship be it mother, wife or sister.
It was quite recently that I came across this funny term 'Circle of trust' from the movie Meet the Parents where the bride’s father maintained a circle of trust within his family. Now let me explain what does this Circle of trust mean. It means No Secrets and No Lies. I was wondering if such a circle really exists and if I had such a circle. After thinking for a while, since my childhood I just had 2 member in my circle of trust my sister and me – we had absolutely no secrets and never lied to each other. It was 3 years back that a new member was added to my circle – my husband and now Chiku. Well the circle is growing. By the way here the circle is bit incomplete, since I believe there is no such circle between my sister and my husband. So here it’s a semi-circle of trust :)
So now looking at the first statement that I made, do I love non-members? Yes I do love my parents and grandmom. But they are not part of the circle because I have some secrets from them and I guess they too. Also dad had way too many secrets which disqualify him to be in any circle.
Why am I talking about all these today – I am seeing that some of the links in my semicircle is breaking since past few months. I am trying to fix my semicircle but as I fix one link the other link breaks. As some great person said “Trust is like a vase.. Once it's broken, though you can fix it the vase will never be same again.” I am seriously worried that one of the pillars of love is falling.
Now I realize that this circle is just ideal and to achieve the ideal is almost hopeless.
Here is the latest math on the 2 pillars
Do not trust anybody 100% because those you trust the most can steal the most
Respect follows equality because men are respectable only as they respect
So here is the outcome - Love but don’t love whole-heartedly, because it will break your heart one day.
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